Archive for December, 2012

December 14, 2012

Love goes the distance


From the depth and Mystery of limitless Eternity

He Left His throne, and not dethroned for another

Travelled from timeless habitation to be confined in the limitations of time just to be one of us

And not like you and me only but this little tot was of a Virgin Birth

Completely divine yet completely human

Born in a Manger, Away in Bethlehem

And the little obscure city, Bethlehem of Judah had a King born in her midst

As it had been prophesied in Micah 5:2

I find the Christmas tale one of Joy and Misery

From a relationship angle, it’s misery

Joseph engaged to Marry Virgin Mary

And the Lass comes up with a story that had never been heard before

Extreme and Profound Madness Mary, you can be smart more smart than that,

Look, we can’t pull through this,

Since I love you, am going to leave you quietly

The Lord be with you

I can never fault Joseph

He was just behaving like a typical human being would

But he eventually never left (All men should be like Joseph)

Love goes the distance…..Are you there, almost..maybe family, relationship?

Love goes the distance

……….In the End it was worth it……….

This quiet father, carpenter was Jesus’s father

So, it’s bitter-sweet this story, Joy-sorrow this tale

Born in a Manger and were it not for the shepherds, there probably would be no reception

Yet the wise men from the East Come to Worship Him as King

With gifts befitting a royalty who unlike royalties was not of a noble birth

Stamping the future role of this helpless babe

Who lived to fulfill His mission

…………..His birth drew God to Us….And it never made sense to go back to heaven without the cross…His crucifixion that drew us to God. It’s a wrap. The story of this son of man.

And as we struggle to mail Santa our last wishes, or wonder whether he has left the North Pole yet, or worry he may have forgotten our goodies, or whether he might be on a budget this year.

Christmas, the 25th actually is highly unlikely to be Christ’s birthday, and even if it were, doesn’t change a thing except to theologians, but then gets a good time to reflect…

So…Come Let’s bow at the Manger, Like the Shepherd’s by night receiving good tidings of Messiah coming to Us, Let’s bow and worship like the wise men did.

As Simeon and Hannah waited to see Him, and Wise Men sought Him, And we seek Him today; good thing is He is always found by the soul that seeks Him.

Have rest, Have fun, Have Cheer, but above all, live and spread the Love.

 

Joy to the World!!!

 

December 10, 2012

Praise Him; Regardless


You have heard stories of people going through issues in life, they talk of how they have prayed about them, but have you ever asked yourselves why few people talk of, ‘… and God spoke to me …’ If you told Him, then what did He tell you. He listens because He is not deaf and He answers because He is not mute. The Bible says that: Behold, the Lord’s hand is not too shortened, that it cannot save; neither his ear heavy, that it cannot hear (Isaiah 59:1).When we approach His chambers of grace and mercy, we ought to take time to reflect on His goodness and behold the beauty of His Holiness……. This is the place where we lift Him above our troubles and give Him what is pleasant: praise. I cannot argue that we all at one moment of time or another have those needs that drive us crazy and we hardly can wait to let Him know how we feel. This time when we feel the urgency of our needs being met also calls on us to hold on our petitions for a while and lavish Him with our praises.

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All too often we come face to face with the glaring fierce eyes of death and the fear of the unknown grips our hearts. With death hung around us and no visible rescue in sight, we are tempted to freak. At such times, we can easily develop a murmuring attitude. The tune of our song can only change if we analyze the truth in God’s Word. He is with us and He knows what we are going through.

Praising God at such a time calls for a brave heart. A courageous heart that knows that even in the face of trouble, the presence of God is ever near. A heart that knows that even if death challenges with its dark shadow, the reality of our lives is in Christ. One that can boldly proclaim that though I walk in low valleys and huge mountains challenge me, I will fear no evil for the Lord is with me.

…………………………………………..If you can still praise and worship God when you are ill and the doctor says there is no hope left, if you can still give thanks to God when all money you have honestly worked for and all the property you rightfully owned is destroyed, if you can still worship God when you have no job, when your pockets are empty and the bills surmounting, if you can still worship the Lord after the loss of a loved one, when you are lonely, forsaken, suffering and aching within and without, if you can still worship God when all you have left is faith that He promised that He will do it according to His Word, then the sound that comes from your lips beloved, is that of a true worshipper. The Lord will surely bless and honour you for truly, this is the “sacrifice of praise.”

When we praise, it offers an anchor of hope and an opportunity for God to manifest in our lives.

These are bits of Part two; A royal priesthood from my book–designed for destiny that I hope will bless your heart. Mostly thought to share what season am currently at in my life.

December 10, 2012

Things Random; At my Physician’s


December 10, 2012

of-Indian snake-bites


I was feeling knocked out the entire week and my old buddy picked to go and sample construction designs…how odd…am no property developer but the therapy worked. So we head to Karen and sample shatter-proof glass panes. Oh, did I know that there are window panes that can take one hour to break in? Man in his pursue of things beauty, things different, things unique, things safe also pursues vanity. Ask old wise Solomon. Anyhow.

I have never hanged out with a bunch of indians neither have I ever thought them funny but after my tranquility was kind of restored ( the gazing at some artificial dam helped), we were joined by a bunch of Indians. One, a hyperactive fellow who was competing with himself for words, another, I gather the brother was so quiet and calm as a dove. The contrast. The other fellow who I later discovered was a fellow from Kathmadu proved funny. And you know how I peck for humour.

My buddy starts us on how he combed industrial area, window shopping with his buddy. So they get to some Muindi shop and he asked for whatever the Muindi was chewing. That cud. He thought it smelt nice. I disagree. It stinks. Anyway, he gets a share and chews it away. And by the time he gets to the next Muindi hardware shop, the fellow was dizzy. World moving around. Seeing things. One becomes many. And in the days of insecurity, the shop owner had a reason to be worried. Must be a terrorist this one. So my pal excuses himself, that he is feeling unwell thanks to some cud he shared from the previous shop. Oh, that thing is dangerous; be careful, at times it’s laden with drugs, he said. Puff. Five minutes, the head became light. The “cud effect” lifted away.

So, the Indian gang we are in the company of explains the Cud their kinsmen keeps chewing. It’s like a drug. Like cigarette, like weed, like anything that the body could gets addicted to. And at times you can get so addicted that no other drug can satisfy you. And then only a snake bite gives you a reprieve. A snake bite? You kidding.

The Kathmandu fellow explains. And it charges my curiosity. So a person deliberately sticks out their hand, body, whatever for a snake bite? Sound evil already! Yes apparently. And where do you get the snakes to bite you? Snakes aren’t the problem, India is the home to all kind of that slithery enemy of mankind. I hate anything that crawls. I hate anything that moves on its belly more. The problem is where to go for a bite. It’s illegal. Just like any other drug.

So how does it work? You got to designated places. You put your hand in the cage or whatever the serpent of old is, and pap for about 1000 Indian rupees(Circa Kes. 1600/1700), you get a bite. Sounds interesting,no? I disagree. I don’t do drugs and I don’t need a snake bite but why on earth would anyone waste money on that. Addiction. And finally your blood is so poisonous that only more poison can calm you. Finally you run out of money.

See what addiction does? And what it pushes one to? It’s hard to break cycles of bad habits but at times the best way is to think of the results before you can even start. One of the gang reminded us of Internal rate of return (I.R.R)..there are problems in life that you need to look at the solution before you can even start to tackle. I believe I was a genius because I often looked at the solution at the back page before embarking at a mathematical calculation. So I.R.R.You can best get to the solution by looking at the answer using your financial calculator and then you extrapolate. Look at the effects before decisions. Look at anticipate outcomes. You will be likely to make a good decision and most probably save your mind headache and time.

 

December 10, 2012

Funny Medics


It’s a Friday evening in Nairobi. One of key people for our meeting walks in,late and takes his seat. He is a practicing Doctor(obs/Gynae) and a dean in a leading college of health sciences.  Lets call him him Dr. XYZ.A quick scan at him,he is bearded and his thick glasses gives him a look of those accomplished scholars who live in laboratories.He quickly apologizes for being late and recounts his day’s ordeal; he had a patient to attend t(an emergency)

The case:

A meru girl engaged to a Luo and wedding is to take place on Saturday 27th August 2011. They attend a dinner on Thursday night with family and friends and as it were the entire Luo clan was there. I am not sure whether the people present were not sober or they shot from the hip deliberately. They hail the brother for getting himself a good girl BUT warns him that a Luo is not properly married until he marries a Luo woman.Open a can of worms: The girl went berserk and the dinner thing was over. Am a Meru girl so the entire story is not funny but I listen on.

 She called up her doctor..Dr.XYZ(hospital name withheld).She is diagnosed with hypertension.,put off the pills to reduce risks and given bed-rest. The clever girl who was equally stressed asks Dr.XYZ to put her on I.V. fluids to make the situation look more serious to whoever cares to look for her. By then, the wedding is on hold,her hair undone but who cares:it’s her life and the insurance is paying the bills.

 Then the Luo man shows up at the hospital, apologizes and begs….blah,bla bla…Dr.XYZ is Luo too and in his words,tells us: The man cried in dholuo( insert all the wails,moans and emotions or beating of objects)…I wonder what kulia kijaluo means.I didn’t find the situation amusing until that point but I was tickled. Whatever touched the girl,she had IV fluids off her at about 7pm,and was willing to rush to the salon. The hypertension went down too….In other news,Kenya missed real news on Fri/Saturday last week.She proceeded to wed on Saturday.

 Dr. XYZ billed her 10k for a day’s bed rest(pay cash and follow your insurance later). Should you be stressed next time and you need a doctor for that kind of a bed-rest,give me a call…I will forward your name to Dr.XYZ.he he he

 I think being a doctor is very hard work so making fun out of people’s madness is key. Read Yusuf Dawood’s Surgeon’s diary and those are not tales…it’s his real patients. This gynae also told us of a guy/girl they converted to a woman at KNH and I don’t want to write details here….The next time he met her and she was like:Hi sweetheart,the doctor fled…he recognized she is the one they converted to a girl…He even has confirmed that Semenya is a man(The theories that he spun at us were too amusing)

 Whatever your work is,enjoy it.Have laughter with it,that’s what keeps us sane!

December 10, 2012

Of dates=)


My works demands that “I work with work” and that’s why I ended up at work on Idd-Ul-Fitr holiday when kina  Abdalla Salim Kioko were breaking the fast as kina Binti saida Makame were applying Henna waiting for the moon to be sighted in the East. So last Friday, I got a day off and perfect opportunity to attend an interview. After appearing looking a million bucks, get the shock on my face when one of the panelists had pulled a “dress-top, leggings look” with ease. I felt cheated.

 So free for the day, I head to town to grab lunch with a girlfie, let’s call her Phoebe. I trailed her off a Joe Kayo’s lunch hour meeting at City Hall…and she tasked me to bless her heart as we talked, that was the consideration. Honestly I wasn’t in the mood for church and was feeling empty so I found it ironical that someone would want to tap to emptiness. I needed to just talk and laugh.

We are joined by Phoebe’s friend, who am briefed is Meru and I stick with the name Ann, and a Kenyan identity. Having been told the guy enjoys talking, I was not in a mood to discuss what “Njuri ncheke” is up to or the next governor in Meru County so figure my surprise when we later learn he is from Kirinyaga County.

 So the guy quotes a few scriptures, which really lifted my spirits but what was funny was when he told us that his sleep is like a switch..on/off thing..and it is because the Lord speaks to Him(not dreams) in his sleep..You know am busy with biashara chasing tenders all day, so I see God a lot but I hear him more in my sleep…

later during my insomnia sessions at 3.47am 2 days later, rather than figuring out why I hardly sleep well, I plugged into the heavens and huh, such a breakthrough.

Phoebe tells me of her prospective date gone sour a while ago with say, Yusuf. So she is waiting on Kenyatta Avenue for Yusuf, around Enka Rasha, a strategic location so that he suggests a coffee shop on the correct side of the town. Here goes:

 

Phoebe: Hey Yusuf, where are you?

Yusuf: Am in a matatu, see you in a while

Phoebe: Ok then, you could alight at ICEA, am just around there

Yusuf: Hii matatu haiwezi shukisha hapo. Kuja Ambassaduer (This time am figuring the date location is under those trees between archives and  Ambassadeur)

Phoebe: Ok then So that’s how Phoebe finds herself on the wrong side of the town and her fears confirmed. They venture beyond Tom Mboya Street, on Accra Road towards “tea-room” and her heart sunk a while ago.

 They get into some rusty café and there you go again:

Yusuf: Mko na kahawa

Waitress: Ndio

Yusuf: Ni pesa ngapi?

Waitress: 30bob

Yusuf: Mliongeza lini?

 At this point, am deadest with laughter and I go, girl, where did u get this dude coz ata kama ni referral, the sources aren’t credible. Have you watched those movies where a girl is on a blind date and when she doesn’t like the dude, she disappears to the bathroom and asks her girls to call her about an emergency. That looked like the moment but Christian Phoebe thought it not cool to crush Yusuf’s ego…it takes time to tell a real prince!

So Phoebe is on mute as she sips her kahawa and only manages a flimsy excuse that she is a single mom with a little daughter…Kusukumwa kwa corner! And the shock when he seeks to give her a “push” to Lang’ata…Supposing he camps at my gate? And who escorts anyone in a bus anyway?

I have learnt when meeting friends or a new person to always suggest a decent place but modest enough to settle bills if necessary..too cautious or too wise, am not even sure.

I peg value on friendship on many things including listening to crazy experiences that make me laugh..I think my search for humour is sick! Friends help us learn, unlearn wrong things and at times just get in touch with our lives again.

 Disclaimer: This article is in due respect to all guys who could be hustling or just can’t afford to foot bills on a coffee date. No offense intended.

December 10, 2012

Temperaments; I am a Chlormel and W.I.P


The highlight are the things that struck me while studying/the ones I found particularly interesting: Enjoy the read!

The SanChlor

The strongest extrovert of all the blends of temperaments will be the SanChlor, for the two temperaments that make up his nature are both extroverted. The happy charisma of the sanguine makes him a people-oriented, enthusiastic, salesman type; but the choleric side of his nature will provide him with the necessary resolution and character traits that will fashion a somewhat more organized and productive individual than if he were pure sanguine. Almost any people-oriented field is open to him, but to sustain his interest it must offer variety, activity, and excitement.

The potential weaknesses of a SanChlor are usually apparent to everyone because he is such an external person. He customarily talks too much, thus exposing himself and his weaknesses for all to see. He is highly opinionated. Consequently, he expresses himself loudly even before he knows all the facts. To be honest, no one has more mouth trouble! If he is the life of the party, he is lovable; but if he feels threatened or insecure, he can become obnoxious. His leading emotional problem will be anger, which can catapult him into action at the slightest provocation. Since he combines the easy forgetfulness of the sanguine and the stubborn casuistry of the choleric, he many not have a very active conscience. Consequently, he tends to justify his actions. This man, like any other temperament, needs to be filled daily with the Holy Spirit and the Word of God.

Simon Peter, the self-appointed leader of the twelve apostles, is a classic example of a New Testament Sandlot. He obviously had mouth trouble, demonstrating this repeatedly by speaking up before anyone else could. He talked more in the Gospels than all the others put together – and most of what he said was wrong. He was egotistical, weak-willed, and carnal throughout the Gospels. In Acts, however, he was a remarkably transformed man – resolute, effective, and productive. What made the difference? He was filled with the Spirit.

The SanMel

SanMels are highly emotional people who fluctuate drastically. They can laugh hysterically one minute and burst into tears the next. It is almost impossible for them to hear a sad tale, observe a tragic plight of another person, or listen to melancholic music without weeping profusely. They genuinely feel the grief’s of others. Almost any field is open to them, especially public speaking, acting, music, and the fine arts. However, SanMels reflect an uninhibited perfectionism that often alienates them from others because they verbalize their criticisms. They are usually people-oriented individuals who have sufficient substance to make a contribution to other lives – if their ego and arrogance don’t make them so obnoxious that others become hostile to them.

One of the crucial weaknesses of this temperament blend prevails in SanMel’s thought-life. Both sanguines and melancholies are dreamers, and thus if the melancholy part of his nature suggests a negative train of thought, it can nullify a SanMel’s potential. It is easy for him to get down on himself. In addition, this person, more than most others, will have both an anger problem and a tendency toward fear. Both temperaments in his makeup suffer with an insecurity problem; not uncommonly, he is fearful to utilize his potential. Being admired by others is so important to him that it will drive him to a consistent level of performance. He has a great ability to commune with God, and if he walks in the Spirit he will make an effective servant of Christ.

King David is a classic illustration of the SanMel temperament. An extremely likable man who attracted both men and women; he was colorful, dramatic, emotional and weak-willed. He could play a harp and sing, he clearly demonstrated a poetic instinct in his Psalms, and he made decisions on impulse. Unfortunately, like many SanMels, he fouled up his life by a series of disastrous and costly mistakes before he gained enough self-discipline to finish out his destiny. All SanMels, of course, are not able to pick up the pieces of their lives and start over as David did. It is far better for them to walk in the Spirit daily and avoid such mistakes.

The SanPhleg  

The easiest person to like is a SanPhleg. The overpowering and obnoxious tendencies of a sanguine are offset by the gracious, easygoing phlegmatic. SanPhlegs are extremely happy people who carefree spirit and good humor make them lighthearted entertainers sought after by others. Helping people is their regular business, along with sales of various kinds. They are the least extroverted of any of the sanguines and are often regulated by their environment and circumstances rather than being self-motivated. SanPhlegs are naturally pro-family and preserve the love of their children – and everyone else for that matter. They would not purposely hurt anyone.

The SanPhleg’s greatest weaknesses are lack of motivation and discipline. He would rather socialize than work, and he tends to take life to casually. As an executive remarked about one, “He is the nicest guy I ever fired.” He rarely gets upset over anything and tends to find the bright side of everything. He usually has an endless repertoire of jokes and delights in making others laugh, often when the occasion calls for seriousness. When Jesus Christ becomes the chief object of his love, he is transformed into a more resolute, purposeful, and productive person.

The first-century evangelist Apollos is about as close as we can come to a New Testament illustration of the SanPhleg. A skilled orator who succeeded Paul and other who had founded the churches, he did the work of stirring the churches with his Spirit-filled preaching and teaching. Loved by all, followed devotedly by some, this pleasant and dedicated man apparently traveled a great deal but did not found new works.

 The ChlorSan

The second-strongest extrovert among the blends of temperament will be the reverse of the first – the ChlorSan. This man’s life is given over completely to activity. Most of his efforts are productive and purposeful, but watch his recreation – it is so activity-prone that it borders being violent. He is a natural promoter and salesman, with enough charisma to get along well with others. Certainly the best motivator of people and one who thrives on a challenge, he is almost fearless and exhibits boundless energy. His wife will often comment, “He has only two speeds, wide open and stop.” Mr. ChlorSan is the courtroom attorney who can charm the coldest-hearted judge and jury, the fund-raiser who can get people to contribute what they intended to save, the man who never goes anywhere unnoticed, the preacher who combines both practical Bible teaching and church administration, and the politician who talks his state into changing its constitution so he can represent them one more time. A convincing debater, what he lacks in facts or arguments he makes up in bluff or bravado. As a teacher, he is an excellent communicator, particularly in the social sciences; rarely is he drawn to math, science, or the abstract. Whatever his professional occupation, his brain is always in motion.

The weaknesses of this man, the chief of which is hostility, are as broad as his talents. He combines the quick, explosive anger of the sanguine (without the forgiveness) and the long-burning resentment of the choleric. He is the one personality type who not only gets ulcers himself, but gives them to others. Impatient with those who do not share his motivation and energy, he prides himself on being brutally frank (some call it sarcastically frank). It is difficult for him to concentrate on one thing very long, which is why he often enlists others to finish what he has started. He is opinionated, prejudiced, impetuous, and inclined doggedly to finish a project he probably should not have started in the first place. If not controlled by God, he is apt to justify anything he does – and rarely hesitates to manipulate or walk over other people to accomplish his ends. Most ChlorSans get so engrossed in their work that they neglect wife and family, even lashing out at them if they complain. Once he comprehends the importance of giving love and approval to his family, however, he can transform his entire household.

James, the author of the biblical book that bears his name, could well have been a ChlorSan – at least his book sounds like it. The main thrust of the book declares that “faith without works is dead” – a favored concept of work-loving cholerics. He used the practical and logical reasoning of a choleric, yet was obviously a highly esteemed man of God. On human weakness he discusses – the fire of the tongue and how no man can control it (James 3) – relates directly to this temperament’s most vulnerable characteristic, for we all know the ChlorSans feature a razor-sharp, active tongue. His victory and evident productiveness in the cause of Christ is a significant example to any thoughtful ChlorSan.

 The ChlorMel

 The choleric/melancholy is an extremely industrious and capable person. The optimism and practicality of the choleric overcome the tendency toward moodiness of the melancholy, making the ChlorMel both goal-oriented and detailed. Such a person usually does well in school, possesses a quick, analytical mind, and yet is decisive. He develops into a thorough leader, the kind whom one can always count on to do an extraordinary job. Never take him on in a debate unless you are assured of your facts, for he will make mincemeat of you, combining verbal aggressiveness and attention to detail. This man is extremely competitive and forceful in all that he does. He is a dogged researcher and is usually successful, no matter what kind of business he pursues. This temperament probably makes the best natural leader. General George S. Patton, the great commander of the U.S. Third Army in World War II who drove the German forces back to Berlin, was probably a ChlorMel.

Equally as great as his strengths, are his weaknesses. He is apt to be autocratic, a dictator type who inspires admiration and hate simultaneously. He is usually a quick-witted talker whose sarcasm can devastate others. He is a natural-born crusader whose work habits are irregular and long. A ChlorMel harbors considerable hostility and resentment, and unless he enjoys a good love relationship with his parents, he will find interpersonal relationships difficult, particularly with his family. No man is more apt to be an overly strict disciplinarian than the ChlorMel father. He combines the hard-to-please tendency of the choleric and the perfectionism of the melancholy. When controlled by the Holy Spirit, however, his entire emotional life is transformed and he makes an outstanding Christian.

There is little doubt in my mind that the Apostle Paul was a ChlorMel. Before his conversion he was hostile and cruel, for the Scripture teaches that he spent his time persecuting and jailing Christians. Even after his conversion, his strong-willed determination turned to unreasonable bullheadedness, as when he went up to Jerusalem against the will and warning of God. His writings and ministry demonstrate the combination of the practical-analytical reasoning and the self-sacrificing but extremely driving nature of a ChlorMel. He is a good example of God’s transforming power in the life of a ChlorMel who is completely dedicated to God’s will.

 The ChlorPhleg  

The most subdued of all the extrovert temperaments is the ChlorPhleg, a happy blend of the quick, active, and hot with the calm, cool, and unexcited. He is not as apt to rush into things as quickly as the preceding extroverts because he is more deliberate and subdued. He is extremely capable in the long run, although he does not particularly impress you that way at first. He is a very organized person who combines planning and hard work. People usually enjoy working with and for him because he knows where he is going and has charted his course, yet is not unduly severe with people. He has the ability to help others make the best use of theirs skills and rarely offends people or makes them feel used. The ChlorPhleg’s slogan on organization states: “Anything that needs to be done can be done better if it’s organized.” These men are usually good husbands and fathers as well as excellent administrators in almost any field.

In spite of his obvious capabilities, the ChlorPhleg is not without a notable set of weaknesses. Although not as addicted to the quick anger of some temperaments, he is known to harbor resentment and bitterness. Some of the cutting edge of choleric’s sarcasm is here offset by the gracious spirit of the phlegmatic; so instead of uttering cutting and cruel remarks, his barbs are more apt to emerge as cleverly disguised humor. One is never quite sure whether he is kidding or ridiculing, depending on his mood. No one can be more bull headedly stubborn that a ChlorPhleg, and it is very difficult for him to change his mind once it is committed. Repentance or the acknowledgment of a mistake is not at all easy for him. Consequently, he will be more apt to make it up to those he has wronged without really facing his mistake. The worrisome traits of the phlegmatic side of his nature may so curtail his adventurous tendencies that he never quite measures up to his capabilities.

Titus, the spiritual son of the Apostle Paul and leader of the hundred or so churches on the Isle of Crete, may well have been a ChlorPhleg. When filled with the Spirit, he was the kind of man on whom Paul could depend on to faithfully teach the Word to the churches and administrate them capably for the glory of God. The book which Paul wrote to him makes ideal reading for any teacher, particularly a ChlorPhleg.

 The MelSan

 Mr. MelSan is usually a very gifted person, fully capable of being a musician who can steal the heart of an audience. As an artist, he not only draws or paints beautifully but can sell his own work- if he’s in the right mood. It is not uncommon to encounter him in the field of education, for he makes a good scholar and probably the best of all classroom teachers, particularly on the high school and college level. The melancholy in him will ferret out little-known facts and be exacting in the use of events and detail, while the sanguine will enable him to communicate well with students.

Mr. MelSan shows an interesting combination of mood swings. Be sure of this: he is an emotional creature! When circumstances are pleasing to him, he can reflect a fantastically happy mood. But if things work out badly or he is rejected, insulted, or injured, he drops into such a mood that his lesser sanguine nature drowns in the resultant sea of self pity. He is easily moved to tears, feels everything deeply, but can be unreasonably critical and hard on others. He tends to be rigid and usually will not cooperate unless things go his way, which is often idealistic and impractical. He is often a fearful, insecure man with a poor self-image which limits him unnecessarily.

Many of the prophets were MelSans- John the Baptist, Elijah, Jeremiah, and others. They had a tremendous capacity to commune with God, were self-sacrificing people-helpers who had enough charisma to attract a following, tended to be legalistic in their teachings and call to repentance, exhibited a flair for the dramatic, and willingly died for their principles.

 The MelChlor

The mood swings of the melancholy are usually stabilized by the MelChlor’s self-will and determination. There is almost nothing vocationally which this man cannot do-and do well. He is both a perfectionist and a driver. He possesses strong leadership capabilities. Almost any craft, construction, or educational level is open to him. Unlike the MelSan, he may found his own institution or business and run it capably-not with noise and color but with efficiency. Many a great orchestra leader and choral conductor is a MelChlor.

The natural weaknesses of MelChlors reveal themselves in the mind, emotions, and mouth. They are extremely difficult people to please, rarely satisfying even themselves. Once they start thinking negatively about something or someone (including themselves), they can be intolerable to live with. Their mood follows their thought process. Although they do not retain a depressed mood as long as the other blends of the melancholy, they can lapse into it more quickly. The two basic temperaments haunted by self-persecution, hostility, and criticism are the melancholy and the choleric. It is not uncommon for him to get angry at God as well as his fellowman, and if such thoughts persist long enough he may become manic-depressive. In extreme cases, he can become sadistic. When confronted with his vile thinking pattern and angry, bitter spirit, he can be expected to explode.

His penchant for detailed analysis and perfection tends to make him a nitpicker who drives others up the wall. Unless he is filled with God’s Spirit or can maintain a positive frame of mind, he is not enjoyable company for long periods of time. No one is more painfully aware of this than his wife and children. He not only “emotes” disapproval, but feels compelled to castigate them verbally for their failures and to correct their mistakes-in public as well as private. This man, by nature, desperately needs the love of God in his heart, and his family needs him to share it with them.

Many of the great men of the Bible show signs of a MelChlor temperament. Two that come to mind are Paul’s tireless traveling companion, Dr. Luke, the painstaking scholar who carefully researched the life of Christ and left he church the most detailed account of our Lord’s life, as well as the only record of the spread of the early church, and Moses, the great leader of Israel. Like many MelChlors, the latter never gained victory over his hostility and bitterness. Consequently, he died before his time. Like Moses, who wasted forty years on the backside of the desert, harboring bitterness and animosity before surrendering his life to God, many a MelChlor never lives up to his amazing potential because of the spirit of anger and revenge.

 The MelPhleg

Some of the greatest scholars the world has ever known have been MelPhlegs. They are not nearly as prone to hostility as the two previous melancholies and usually get along well with others. These gifted introverts combine the analytical perfectionism of the melancholy with the organized efficiency of the phlegmatic. They are usually good-natured humanitarians who prefer a quiet, solitary environment for study and research to the endless rounds of activities sought by the more extroverted temperaments. MelPhlegs are usually excellent spellers and good mathematicians. These gifted people have greatly benefited humanity. Most of the world’s significant inventions and medical discoveries have been made by MelPhlegs.

Despite his abilities, the MelPhleg, like the rest of us, has his own potential weaknesses. Unless controlled by God, he easily becomes discouraged and develops a very negative thinking pattern. But once he realizes it is a sin to develop the spirit of criticism and learns to rejoice, his entire outlook on life can be transformed. Ordinarily a quiet person, he is capable of inner angers and hostility caused by his tendency to be vengeful.

MelPhlegs are unusually vulnerable to fear, anxiety, and a negative self-image. It has always amazed me that the people with the greatest talents and capabilities are often victimized by genuine feelings of poor self-worth. Their strong tendency to be conscientious allows them to let others pressure them into making commitments that drain their energy and creativity. When filled with God’s spirit, these people are loved and admired by their family because their personal self-discipline and dedication are exemplary in the home. But humanitarian concerns cause them to neglect their family. Unless they learn to pace themselves and enjoy diversions that help them relax, they often become early mortality statistics.

The most likely candidate for a MelPhleg in the Bible is the beloved Apostle John. He obviously had a very sensitive nature, for as a youth he laid his head on Jesus’ breast at the Lord’s Supper. On one occasion he became so angry at some people that he asked the Lord Jesus to call fire from heaven down on them. Yet at the crucifixion he was the one lone disciple who devotedly stood at the cross. John was the one to whom the dying Jesus entrusted his mother. Later the disciple became a great church leader and left us five books in the New Testament, two of which (the Gospel of John and the Book of Revelation) particularly glorify Jesus Christ.

 The PhlegSan

The easiest of the twelve temperament blends to get along with over a protracted period of time is the PhlegSan. He is congenial, happy, cooperative, thoughtful, people-oriented, diplomatic, dependable, fun-loving, and humorous. A favorite with children and adults, he never displays an abrasive personality. He is usually A GOOD FAMILY MAN WHO ENJOYS A QUIET LIFE AND LOVES HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN. Ordinarily he attends a church where the pastor is a good motivator; there he probably takes an active role.

The weaknesses of the PhlegSan are as gentle as his personality – unless you have to live with him all the time. Since he inherited the lack of discipline of a sanguine, it is not uncommon for the PhlegSan to fall short of his true capabilities. He often quits school, passes up good opportunities, and avoids anything that involves “too much effort.” Fear is another problem that accentuates his unrealistic feelings of insecurity. With more faith, he could grow beyond his timidity and self-defeating anxieties. However, he prefers to build a self-protective shell around himself and selfishly avoids the kind of involvement or commitment to activity that he needs and that would be a rich blessing to his partner and children. I have tremendous respect for the potential of these happy, contented people, but they must cooperate by letting God motivate them to unselfish activity.

The man in the Scripture that reminds me most of the PhlegSan is gentle, faithful, good-natured Timothy, the favorite spiritual son of the Apostle Paul. He was dependable and steady but timid and fearful. Repeatedly, Paul had to urge him to be more aggressive and to “do the work of an evangelist” (2 Tim. 4:5).

 The PhlegChlor

The most active of all phlegmatics is the PhlegChlor. But it must be remembered that since he is predominantly a phlegmatic, he will never be a ball of fire. Like his brother phlegmatics, he is easy to get along with and may become an excellent group leader. The phlegmatic has the potential to become a good counselor, for he is an excellent listener, does not interrupt the client with stories about himself, and is genuinely interested in other people. Although the PhlegChlor rarely offers his services to others, when they come to his organized office where he exercises control, he is a first-rate professional. His advice will be practical, helpful, and – if he is a Bible-taught Christian – quite trustworthy. His gentle spirit never makes people feel threatened. He always does the right thing, rarely goes beyond the norm. IF HIS WIFE CAN MAKE THE ADJUSTMENT TO HIS PASSIVE LIFE-STYLE AND RELUCTANCE TO TAKE THE LEAD IN THE HOME, PARTICULARLY IN THE DISCIPLINE OF THEIR CHILDREN, THEY CAN ENJOY A HAPPY MARRIAGE.

The weaknesses of the PhlegChlor are not readily apparent but gradually come to the surface, especially in the home. In addition to the lack of motivation and the fear problems of the other phlegmatics, he can be determinedly stubborn and unyielding. He doesn’t blow up at others, but simply refuses to give in or cooperate. He is not a fighter by nature, but often lets his inner anger and stubbornness reflect itself in silence. The PhlegChlor often retreats to his “workshop” alone or nightly immerses his mind in TV. The older he gets, the more he selfishly indulges his sedentary tendency and becomes increasingly passive. Although he will probably live a long and peaceful life, if he indulges these passive feelings it is a boring life – not only for him, but also for his family. He needs to give himself to the concerns and needs of his family.

No man in the Bible epitomizes the PhlegChlor better than Abraham in the Old Testament. Fear characterized everything he did in the early days. For instance, he was reluctant to leave the security of the pagan city of Ur when God first called him; he even denied his wife on two occasions and tried to palm her off as his sister because of fear. Finally, he surrendered completely to God and grew in the spirit. Accordingly, his greatest weakness became his greatest strength. Today, instead of being known as fearful Abraham, he has the reputation of being the man who “believed in the Lord; and he counted it unto him for righteousness.”

 The PhlegMel

Of all the temperament blends, the PhlegMel is the most gracious, gentle, and quiet. He is rarely angry or hostile and almost never says anything for which he must apologize (mainly because he rarely says much). He never embarrasses himself or others, always does the proper thing, dresses simply, and is dependable and exact. He tends to have the spiritual gifts of mercy and help, and he is neat and organized in his working habits. Like any phlegmatic, he is HANDY AROUND THE HOUSE AND AS ENERGY PERMITS WILL KEEP HIS HOME IN GOOD REPAIR. If he has a wife who recognizes his tendencies toward passivity (but tactfully waits for him to take the lead in their home), they will have a good family life and marriage. However, if she resents his reticence to lead and be aggressive, she may become discontented and foment marital strife. He may neglect the discipline necessary to help prepare his children for a productive, self-disciplined life and so “provoke his children to wrath” just as much as the angry tyrant whose unreasonable discipline makes them bitter.

The other weaknesses of this man revolve around fear, selfishness, negativism, criticism, and lack of self-image. Once a PhlegMel realizes that only his fears and negative feelings about himself keep him from succeeding, he is able to come out of his shell and become an effective man, husband, and father. Most PhlegMels are so afraid of over-extending themselves or getting over involved that they automatically refuse almost any kind of affiliation.

Personally I have never seen a PhlegMel over involved in anything – except in keeping from getting over involved. He must recognize that since he is not internally motivated, he definitely needs to accept more responsibility than he thinks he can fulfill, for that external stimulation will motivate him to greater achievement. All phlegmatics work well under pressure, but it must come from outside. His greatest source of motivation, of course, will be the power of the Holy Spirit.

Barnabas, the godly saint of the first-century church who accompanied the Apostle Paul on his first missionary journey, was in all probability a PhlegMel. He was the man who gave half his goods to the early church to feed the poor, the man who contended with Paul over providing John Mark (his nephew) another chance to serve God by accompanying them on the second missionary journey. Although the contention became so sharp that Barnabas took his nephew and they proceeded on their journey by themselves, Paul later commended Mark saying, “He is profitable to me for the ministry” (2 Tim. 4:11). Today we have the Gospel of Mark because faithful, dedicated, and gentle Barnabas was willing to help him over a hard place in his life. PhlegMels respond to the needs of others if they will just let themselves move out into the stream of life and work with people where they are.

 And now that you know where you fall, what do you plan to do about it?

December 10, 2012

Randomly; Matters Love


Not of thematic concern, especially in any of my literary pursuits has been ‘Love’

I always shy away from expressing myself in writing especially outside my diaries, yes, I still write on diaries/note books but mostly other things but LOVE

I read a lot, lately randomly on blogs or carefully selected books, including a novel or two each week. I have been amused lately by how my friends express themselves on blogs, especially the ones who look toughees…Yea, if you are my friend and a blogger, I may have snooped on your thoughts too.A young man penning deep thoughts of love you can almost sense or feel some music and at times dance in those dream words. Another hoping to make a girl’s heart happy, that you can almost read the mind of some anticipated smile.…then a mood swing as disappointment checks in especially because more often than not, the ones who read the words on these blogs are the unintended sweethearts. Words to some damsel beyond reach or others of a jilted lover. Others of a girl in my dreams—The sweet flow of the words, interrupted by the realization that this is only a mere longing, that she may never realize is there.Or a lass dreaming of a knight in a shining armour…like Ms. Boroughs in some book I read two weeks ago…get married to a man of my dreams , where love shall be glue between us. So when life in a bitchy way presents the opposite, like Ms. Boroughs pushes you to the deathly banks of river Thames one cold, an almost suicidal night….

Then he shows up from the Shadows and rescues you from some haunting shadow..pain of a man who would otherwise make your life miserable. But he is packaged as a broke London Solicitor—aided by luck to be a poor solicitor whereas fate had condemned him to the life of a street urchin. But luck wasn’t luck enough, for the shackles of misfortune didn’t ebb away totally—that’s why he doesn’t yet own a nice office along Chancery Lane. Doesn’t matter..That kiss by River Thames had some magic and I can’t sleep..but Oh, he denied me his name..Possibly because he figured himself a leech…a nobody, to deserve the Charming Miss. But who cares—he is got a beautiful heart so I risk it with him…..The fellow ends up in Prison one day, but for the pleas of the poor, whose cases and plight he defended in the courts…The King shows up and Knights the Poor fellow @Hurray—He…is …..Knighted and he gets a title too! Aha-Not all princes are born—some are just Knighted

More interesting read was Palaces….and possibly because in as much as not all can get the courage and determination of …to pursue career despite cost and stay put when he walks away because you can’t be his Mommy-wife, mommy-girlfriend thing…..Maria does. The delicate balance doesn’t work so he walks away—only forever!

When in those cold hard seasons (This is Chilly July), am lying on my cold bed (occasionally, I believe someone sneaks some cold water on my bed) and as much as I feel happy about my life so far and yap about it to my friends…I occasionally feel like adding a line that….”only hard part is that no-one cares anymore…no-one seems to.” (Disclaimer: This line should only be quoted on literary discussions with me:-)

I so remember the words of Alex:Maria, I love you so much, and the problem is that you don’t give me a chance to love you so. I want you to know that despite any resisting efforts, nothing will wear the feelings. I will never stop loving you. Only that I will stop saying so…..For the problem is that you have come to believe that someone who loves you must want to own you and possess you…gag your dreams, stop you mid-way from achieving your dreams….You can be loved and still have your own life, pursue interests, pursue career…have your space…..
The desperation that was painted in those words reminded me how differently we view the world, how unconvincing we can be and at times how easily we entertain empty doubtful words that easily lock out the magic……

Love makes simple words poetic and makes would be non-writers, artistic!

And as I consider this…..I hope it will be magical again

December 10, 2012

“All men dream:…


“All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes to make it possible”. T. E .Lawrence